Sara Nasserzadeh, BA. MSc. MPhil, Dip Pst. PhDc is an AASECT certified Sexuality Counselor and BASRT accredited Psychosexual Therapist and Couple Counselor trained in England, where she practiced for a[…]
Psychosexual therapist Sara Nasserzadeh tackles the age-old question by dissecting its terminology.
Question: What is love?
Sara Nasserzadeh: If I want to define love, I first of all encourage everybody to go and read -- well, even if they don’t speak different languages -- they go and see how it is -- what the terminology in different languages and different cultures are for love. This could actually give a very good insight to people as how different people define love. The other thing is, I was reading a book by Stephen Covey, I think, that he very nicely put it this way: love is a verb. And I always say love is a verb. When I say I love you, I’m out of love with you, I'm in love with you, such a language I use is quite irresponsible. It's as if it can come and go without my knowledge. But if I say I choose to love you, it's a verb. I'm going to make myself to love you. And if we think about arranged marriages in, for example, Indian cultures, because you are supposed to love your spouse, you will eventually end up loving your spouse. So it's really the whole world perspective, rather than what we've been told about love, mostly from Hollywood.