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Will Prince Harry and Meghan Markle have a happy marriage? Here’s what psychology says.

From what we know about the young prince and actress, how does the future look for their relationship based on psychological studies of successful marriages?
Harry and Meghan watch a street dance class. (Geoff Pugh WPA Pool/Getty Images)

The gala nuptials for Henry Charles Albert David Mountbatten-Windsor—AKA Prince Harry—on May 19 reminds us how we long for royal marriages where the couple lives happily ever after, as they inevitably do in fairy tales. Alas, this doesn’t always turn out to be the case, as in the anguished, ultimately tragic marriage into which Princes Harry and William were born. It’s all the more uplifting, then, to see the princes grown-up and happy in love. William and Kate, having first gotten to know each other as friends in school, seem so clearly happy, and now Harry has his Meghan. Dare we hope for as happy an ending for them? (Since we call the prince “Harry,” We’ll call her “Meghan.”)

Certainly, Britain’s astrologers say the (astrological) signs are great, as do the folks at, who claim to have qualifying matchmaking experience with celebs and even royals. But what does psychological research say?

Current psychological wisdom on relationship satisfaction

There’s been a wealth of research on what makes for a satisfying marriage/long-term relationship. Underlying much of the study has been a very simple question: Do partners who are alike do better or partners who complement each other? Various teams have come up with similar answers, and they’re surprising.

There are just three areas where being similar to a mate seems to be crucially important, with incompatibility a deal-breaker:

  • political orientation
  • attitude
  • religiosity

One study looking to understand this better questioned 308 Finnish couples regarding three attribute categories, and their level of satisfaction in their relationships.

Political values

Subjects were asked whether they would characterize themselves as politically left or right, liberal or conservative, and committed to protecting the environment.

Personal values

Research suggests that, though not overwhelmingly strong, there’s something of a correlation between shared values and happy marriages. Respondents were asked about the degree to which they relate to Schwartz’s 10 basic values, summarized by Gregg Henriques writing for Psychology Today:

  • Power: Social status and prestige, control or dominance over people and resources
  • Achievement: Personal success through demonstrating competence according to social standards
  • Hedonism: Pleasure or sensuous gratification for oneself
  • Stimulation: Excitement, novelty, and challenge in life
  • Self-Direction: Independent thought and action – choosing, creating, exploring
  • Universalism: Understanding, appreciation, tolerance, and protection for the welfare of all people and for nature
  • Benevolence: Preservation and enhancement of the welfare of people with whom one is in frequent personal contact
  • Tradition: Respect, commitment, and acceptance of the customs and ideas that traditional culture or religion provide
  • Conformity: Restraint of actions, inclinations, and impulses likely to upset or harm others and violate social expectations or norms
  • Security: Safety, harmony, and stability of society, of relationships, and of self

The strongest connection appeared to occur with agreement on universalism and tradition. Satisfied couples showed similarities in all of these values, in fact, except stimulation and benevolence.

Personality traits

Subjects were asked to describe their own levels of:

  • Neuroticism
  • Agreeableness
  • Conscientiousness
  • Extraversion
  • Openness

Surprisingly, these personality traits register as having only a weak effect on relationship satisfaction, with openness seeming to be most significant. Neuroticism was the only one with no positive correlation to relationship satisfaction.

It may be that when there’s a personality clash between people, their relationships never make it to the marital stage, and thus these differences are pre-selected out of a sample of long-term couples.

(Credit: Leikas, et al)

So what does this say about Harry and Meghan?

Politics, environmentalism, and religion

To really run the lovebirds through the psychologists’ gauntlet, we’d have to know them on a personal level a lot better than we do. We know Prince Harry and Meghan Markle as celebrities, and barely as real people at all.

(Photo: Christopher Furlong/Getty Images)

On the most important values to share for a happy couple—political leanings and attitude, and environmental stance—we’re largely in the dark, especially about Harry. His political preferences are closely guarded as a member of the royal family. He is pro-environment and has joined with his environmentalist dad speaking out about climate change. Of American Meghan we know a bit more: she campaigned for Hillary Clinton, is no fan of Donald Trump, and has been an outspoken ambassador for women’s rights. We don’t know her environmental position, though her being a partial vegan may offer a clue. As far as religion goes, Meghan was recently baptized in Harry’s Church of England, having previously been Roman Catholic. So, it seems likely the two are similar on these potential dealbreaker topics, though it’s hard to know for sure from here.


Though studies don’t make shared values dispositive to a satisfying relationship, they can’t hurt, and here it seems that the two have a lot in common.

(Photo: Ben Birchall/AFP/Getty Images)

Though as a younger man, hard-partying Harry was big on hedonism and stimulation, he’s honored a personal vow to take up his late mother’s work once he reached 18, and has been impressing Brits with his self-direction and benevolence, as defined above. Meghan, too, is a hard worker and has been a vocal advocate for issues she cares about. She seems to resonate with self-direction, universalism, and benevolence. It seems Meghan also anonymously ran a blog (now offline) called The Working Actress, dedicated only to supporting her fellow up-and-comers.

Made for the job

Being a royal is a job, albeit a ridiculously high-paying one, that requires living in the public eye, surviving 24-hour scrutiny and mobs of rabid paparazzi whose attention can be literally deadly, as Harry and William know all too well. An unwillingness to subject oneself to this madness is reportedly at least part of what caused Harry’s previous relationships to fail. Harry, of course, has been in training for all this attention his entire life.

(Photo: Dominic Lipinski – WPA Pool/Getty Images)

For Meghan, there’s little new in any of this. As an actress and activist, she’s been paparazzi bait for some time. Yes, she’ll need to be tutored in royal specifics, but never has a British royal wed a woman arrived so skilled at dealing with the glare of the spotlight without losing her poise, warmth, and ability to be down-to-earth. Harry himself is credited with sharing his mother’s open-hearted charm, and in their eagerness to make human connections with help people in need they are in profound agreement.

Looking good, we guess

With the caveat that we don’t really know Harry and Meghan, it does look from the outside like this could work. They’ve got chemistry to burn and lots of projects, goals, and values in common. Happily ever after may not be such a stretch.


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